One of the questions that I often get from listeners is “how do I avoid conflict as we blend our households?” Whether you are talking about physical stuff, which pots and pans should we keep?
To deeper conversations surrounding the habits and routines you plan on implementing in your new life together.
Between the overflow of physical items, to the practical side of chores, expectations, and family dynamics-blending families is more than just organizing the linen closet.
Joining me today is one of our SBO Partners, Kim Snodgrass, founder of Rustic Home Organizing in Portland, OR. Kim is a mom to 3 girls and has first hand experience blending families-something she talks candidly about on the show.
During our conversation Kim shares her story of marriage, divorce, moving across the country and the importance of communication.
We talked about the countless variables that make each situation unique;
- The ages of kids
- How often the kids spend at each house (are they here every week or every other week, or just in the summer and holidays?)
- How involved your ex is in parenting
- Do you have chores at one house but not at another?
Although everyone has a different story, there are some universal challenges and I asked Kim to share a few practical tips for anyone listening who might be in the process of blending households
All of these interpersonal questions add a layer of complexity to making a smooth transition to combining multiple families.
- Create Clear Zones that are easy for everyone to adapt-from shoe drop spots to simplifying laundry routines.
- Ask first. Don’t assume that you know what to keep or get rid of.
- Consider the stage of life for all parties involved. Setting ground rules for a 5 year old is different than for a 17 year old.
- Have Patience. Give people time to adapt to new rules, expectations and living situations.
- Forgive. You are going to make mistakes and so are the members of your new family. Have grace, be kind and keep an open line of communication.
There are so many great reminders and new take-aways that Kim shares, I encourage you to listen and share this episode with someone who might need to hear it.
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